Joel and I have made it to the 10 year mark. I can't believe I have had the same boyfriend for the last 10 years. Now, I will not say it has been rosey and perfect, but quite the opposite. Being in a relationship where two people have their own opinion and where there are opposite genders, is quite a challenge.
In order to have a successful relationship one must be able to relent on issues carefully. No, I am not saying I gave Joel all the wins in our fights, I am just saying someone has to say they are wrong and or "sorry" at the right times. Being raised in learning my position as a "submissive partner" from sermons is not something that comes natural for me, it probably is my weakest character. Yes, I will try to make dinners and clean as I go, but Joel understands the importance being my helper, my other half. He also cooks and cleans. Yes, this is somewhat rare because not all men are gifted with cooking (or cleaning). It is hard to have to do everything in the home when I am working and going to school full time. Plus now in this world, it is hard to take up the position full time mom, especially when a two income home is needed to survive the painful mortgage and spiked prices in gas and food.
Joel and I have had our share of ups and downs in the last 10 years and will have more to come, now that we are going to spend our whole lives together. It is important to understand how the mind of your man works and what they need in a relationship to survive tough times. We are rare phenomenon, Joel and I, to the world because relationships don't usually last as long as we have so far.
It is my goal as his future wife to make him happy and now in the year to come it will be sealed with our commitment with each other in holy matrimony.
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